My drivel on Fifty Shades of Grey


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If you haven’t read the books – don’t watch it.


I didn’t feel the film conveyed the severity of how damaged Christian Grey really is (from a psychological perspective). It only ads to the uninformed viewer who sits in this film without knowing the magnitude of what makes up Mr Grey, that they will allude that in his lifestyle of BDSM it is okay;

  • to be controlling
  • to punish a woman for not listening
  • to use the lifestyle of a dominant to met out violent abuse when displeased and with a belt.

The message it sends is far more divergent than what you would get from understanding more about the character from the book. In other words in Christian Grey’s lifestyle it is okay;

  • to use control for pleasure
  • to use punishment as pleasure
  • use the lifestyle of a dominant to create pleasure for both the giver and the receiver.

50 Shades has been a hot topic since it hit the shelves. We continue to bring it up and continue to obsess over what it is saying and what it is not saying.

I am constantly amused by people slamming something they haven’t read, and refuse to read, but go off on a wild tangent when the book is brought up in conversation. In academia you would be stuck down by a lightening bolt if you made an assumption without having read and digested the necessary material that supports your argument whether for or against.

For all that it is, 50 Shades has become a monumental topic and continues to be a point of interest.


Because human beings are curious animals and E. L. James has brought them one step closer to that curiosity in a topic that was taboo. Whether we the academics or literati agree with its style is of no consequence to the wider readership. Heaven knows that James wasn’t writing it as a Nobel Prize Winner.

My Summary of the Whole Never Ending Hoo-hah!

The story itself is a basic boy meets girl, boy has issues, girl wants to fix him and yadda, yadda, yadda. It is typical, it is predictable. What it is not is rocket science so stop trying to analyse it as if it were.

What I do not consent to is the mix messages that may be concocted from younger women and men that do not have the sexual or emotional experience, where they think it is okay for a dominant man in a relationship to punish his partner when he is displeased with the actions of the said person. Let’s get one thing straight – IT IS NEVER OKAY TO BE VIOLENT OR HAVE VIOLENT TENDENCIES TOWARDS A PERSON YOU ARE INTIMATE WITH OR ANYONE FOR THAT FACT!! ABUSE IS ABUSE and you can’t flower it up in BDSM lifestyle and say that it is sex. It’s not.

The Film 

I would like to wrap up and say that it was well directed and within its parameters in regards to viewable cinematic allowance but in all honesty many people will come to this film and get a different message and that is where the damage truly lies.

As a reader of the books the film was satisfying.







4 comments on “My drivel on Fifty Shades of Grey

    • Hi Lily,

      I read them out of curiosity to see what all the hype was about and although they are not the most brilliantly penned books there were elements in them that were strong, that hooked you whether in frustration or for mere inquisitiveness. I wanted to see how it ended.

      I don’t think the hype of FSoG is going to go away anytime soon. At some point you either bite the bullet and say okay or just ignore it all and wish for something to take it’s place.


  1. I totally agree Effie. There is a part in the film at the end where she asks for the worst he wants to do to her and then seems suprised by how horrible it is. In the book it is written differently and gives a totally different aspect to the scene.

    • Hi Cassandra,

      It so easy to interpret that last scene as abuse and admittedly, it is that final scene that made me think it’s probably better to have knowledge of the books prior to viewing it which spurred my ‘inner goddess’ drivel. 🙂


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